the gorgeous jess has lost 62kgs (136ibs) and loves being able to wear tight jeans, heels & a cute top now instead of baggy clothes.
“It’s all about balance, and weight loss is a journey, it’s not an overnight thing. Don’t punish yourself for having a piece of chocolate, just don’t go and eat the whole block!”
When did you start gaining weight?
I started gaining significant weight during the early stages of a new relationship with an extremely abusive, negative person, about 3+ years ago. It was an extremely toxic relationship and I not only became unhappy with my life in general but also fell into quite a dark depression. I started turning to food to numb the pain that I experienced from this relationship, and the emotions that were associated with the relationship and the way it impacted my life overall in such a negative way.
What was your heaviest weight?
What made you decide to lose weight / what was your turning point?
After leaving that relationship, it took me quite some time to get to a good place mentally and emotionally. The relationship was extremely soul destroying, that’s honestly the best way to put it. I didn’t recognise myself and even my closest loved ones said it was shocking to see how much that relationship jeapordised who I was and how it seriously affected me in so many ways. I worked quite hard emotionally to get to a place where I was strong enough to start putting pieces of my life back together. It took a while to get there, I’ll be honest. In February 2016 I tore my ACL in my left knee. That was honestly the turning point for me. I had the mindset of wanting to lose weight for months prior to this, but hadn’t yet found the motivation or drive to start actively changing my life. After injuring my knee and being on crutches for weeks, in and out of hospital, on serious painkillers, I realised (with the help of the surgeon and my GP), that my weight was severely impacting my knee, and obviously my life in general. They also informed me I wouldn’t be able to have my knee operated on until I got under 120kg. This whole ordeal really confirmed for me how much my weight was impacting my life, so that’s when it really hit me.
How much weight have you lost?
To date, 62kg.
How did you lose your weight?
My weight loss has absolutely been enhanced by undergoing gastric sleeve surgery. You still have to eat right and exercise, it doesn’t just fall off forever. This was definitely a tool that has aided in my weight loss to date.
How long did it take you to lose your weight?
I have lost 62kg since the 1st December, 2016.
Did you do any exercise during your weight loss journey?
I currently walk 3-4 times a week, and go to the gym 3-4 times a week.
What was your biggest motivation?
I want to have at least one child one day, and I want to live my life to the absolute fullest. I didn’t want to stay in that bad mental space I was in, I knew I had to change something otherwise I would’ve never been able to achieve the things I wanted to achieve in life. I ultimately just want to be happy, healthy, and enjoy what life has to offer and I wasn’t doing that. My weight was well and truly affecting that.
What was the hardest part about losing weight?
I would say the hardest part has actually been when I see people I haven’t seen for some time. Don’t get me wrong – it’s absolutely amazing when people compliment your progress and comment on your body – but when you’ve spent a long time significantly overweight, nobody ever comments or compliments your body. When they start to comment on things like “omg your legs are looking amazing” – I feel uncomfortable. Not because I don’t appreciate their comment, just because I can’t imagine what they used to think when they saw me! The other thing that’s difficult is the expense of going through clothes and being in between sizes. It can be a little expensive but lets be honest, it’s pretty awesome!!
What used to be your favourite food?
What is your favourite food now?
I still love food and all of the glorious flavours, but I tailor my choices now to things that are easy to eat, things that don’t make me feel heavy. I would honestly say my favorite food right now that I can eat every single day is avocado and feta. Best combination. It’s a party in your mouth.
One thing you miss about being overweight?
Favourite body part?
How did you reward your accomplishments?
I treat myself to things like getting my eyebrows done, my hair done, buying myself something new that isn’t food related. I love buying clothes and finding new outfits.
Now that you’ve lost weight, how do you maintain it?
I’m still losing weight currently, as I want to get to 70kg so I have 25kg to go.
How did you celebrate when you reached your goal weight?
When I reach my goal weight, I would like to treat myself to a holiday.
What’s your favourite thing to wear now?
I love wearing high waisted jeans with a sexy bodysuit, or tight jeans, heels, and a cute top. Simple but makes me feel great! Never used to be able to wear stuff like that as I would just wear baggy clothes all the time.
Do people treat you differently now that you’re thinner?
Yes. Unfortunately, they do. By “they”, I mean people that knew me before. I feel like I get more attention from men when I go out, which is rather odd to me. I don’t notice it but yeah, it’s definitely a thing. I also notice that certain people that used to not want much to do with me when I was at my highest weight, now want to hang out and be my friend and go and do things. Before I startd losing weight, one of my friends at the time said to me, “All I know is you’re going to end up like one of “those girls” when you start losing weight”. I’m not really sure what “those girls” means, but that person completely started distancing themselves from me as I started losing weight. The sad part is, I’m ten times happier than I ever was before and I’m still the same person. If anything, I would be so much more fun to be around, yet that person has decided they clearly prefer the more miserable Jess! Which is sad, but hey, I’m happy and if people can’t support that or don’t want to support that, that’s entirely their choice.
How has your life changed now that you’ve lost weight?
It’s honestly changed dramatically and in the best way possible. I wake up in the morning with the desire to just go out and live and achieve as much as I can every single day. I have the confidence to go out, explore, go on adventures, and try new things. I had the confidence to go out and date again, and I met someone amazing and that’s really exciting. I’ve regained that spark inside me, that passion to just want to live life and have fun and laugh my way through the hard times. That bubbly, positive person is definitely back for good. In addition to all that though, I’ve made some amazing friends through this journey so far and I’m so genuinely thankful for that. The other thing I must say is it’s just so nice being able to spend time with my little sister, play with her, and have the energy to do so. My energy levels are just incredible. I can easily walk up stairs (with the exception of my shitty knee), and not break out in a sweat. I can exercise and genuinely enjoy it. It’s just amazing!
What’s your #1 weight loss tip?
It’s all about balance, and weight loss is a journey, it’s not an overnight thing. Don’t punish yourself for having a piece of chocolate, just don’t go and eat the whole block! Don’t guilt yourself for eating something “naughty” – food is to be enjoyed! When you start feeling guilty or punishing yourself, you only end up putting yourself down and being in a negative headspace, and then more often than not (from my experience) you turn back to food as a way to comfort yourself from those feelings of guilt. Don’t do it! Allow yourself that piece of cheese or whatever it is, and brush yourself off and keep going!
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